Either he or I am wrong.
Either he or I are wrong.
Are either he or you wrong?
either...or多和单数名词或代名词连用，但是常用复数动词。
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Neither we nor John is wrong.
Neither we nor John are wrong.
Are neither we nor John wrong?
Are both we and John correct?
Neither... nor连接第三人称和第一人称、或是连接第二人称和第三人称时，用复数动词
听起来会比较自然
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