https://markmanson.net/how-to-make-friends
Counterintuitive Principle for Making Friends as an Adult:
“Focus on Yourself First”
This may seem selfish, but the truth is that when we invest time and energy in our own passions and interests, we become more interesting and likable to others. People are drawn to those who are confident, passionate, and engaged in life.

I guess when people getting older and older we are more experienced ( and alter) to know where others are coming from.*alert