“It isn’t only in romantic relationships that people may feel deep emotional loneliness. I’ve worked with single people who have similar stories, but their unhappy adult relationships are played out with parents or friends. Typically, their relationships with their parents are so draining that they don’t have the emotional energy to pursue romantic relationships, nor do they want to. Their experiences with their parents have taught them that relationships mean feeling abandoned and burdened at the
same time. To these people, relationships feel like traps. They already have their hands full with a parent who acts like he or she owns them.”
这作者完全写中我的心声！就是因为原生家庭的妈妈求关注求 spotlight 让我觉得太烦了，我根本没有多余的情绪能量去耗损，很畏惧去开一段新的关系，因为原生家庭像emotional vampire一样吸取精力，让我觉得没事找事还要开新的任务支线我难道傻了吗
于是一方面羡慕他人有稳定的关系，一方面又觉得任何固定关系都是囚禁自己、太过炙热的烫手山芋，我消受不起。