※ 引述《mabansis (mabansis)》之铭言：
: Recently I had some argument with my sister in law over whether
: she should invite her parents, my parents in law, to her wedding.
: She declined her parents' presence in her wedding. The relationship
: between her and her parents has long been very rough. Being the only
: girl in the family with three older bothers, she was not treated
: fairly and respectfully by her parents, who cherish only male.
: She was expected to endure what she sees as verbal abuse, while
: her parents expect her to be obedient under all circumstances.
: Therefore, all alone, there are lots of conflicts between her parents,
: who hold very ancient traditional chinese family value, and her,
: who grew up in western culture.
: She never stopped seeking love and respect from the family,
: and couldn't stop complaining how differently she is treated than
: other boys in the family, especially my husband.
: She is getting married in September. Recently, she found out
: that her parents intend to pass their property to three sons only.
: Feeling so unfair and hurt, she confronted her parents and had
: a huge argument over this. Her father told her that since she
: got married, she does not belong to the family anymore.
: After the argument, she uninvited her parents from her wedding, and
: decided to cut all contact with the family.
: I replied to the email she sent annoucing her decision and expressed
: that she should still invite her parents to her wedding. She
: got really mad at me for not being able to understand and support her.
: As a result, I was told not to attend her wedding as well.
: Having nothing aganist her personally, I regret not being able to hold
: my tongue and intervened. However, I do feel very bad
: for my parents in law. I agree that they are probably one of the worst
: parents, who just give birth to the chidren and don't educate them.
: However, they should still be invited to the wedding as a minimum
: acknowledge to them giving birth to her.
: It is a long post. Thanks to anyone who has the patience to read it
: through.
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