楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 21:32:43My father had or is having an affair with a woman.
he knew that woman at a religious community.
When watching buddhism channel, if the topic is about 放下
he said my mother should do that.
Does my father twist the meaning about 放下
what does 放下 really mean?
作者:
ilanese (坐听无弦曲)
2018-06-14 22:17:00阿鬼,你还是说中文吧!women是复数形,woman才是单数形。
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 22:02:00This is simple English everyone can understand.
作者:
amaton (南无阿弥陀佛)
2018-06-14 22:45:00你是来秀你的英文?
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 22:47:00My English is poor I don’t want my father read this
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 22:53:00It is the life of your and your family, no body cannobody can make the decision for youBut if it is me, I will let go.His heart is not there anymore. Keep him there is notreally good for anyone.The rest you can have will be just more pain andsadness, if you keep him there.Since you are a grow man, you should be able to livewith it. Take care of your mom. Good Luck.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:02:00We need financial support...
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:03:00That will be the only reason for you.And agian, it is the life of yours and your family's.You get to make the decision on your own.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:04:00Besides , he is the one violating Buddha’s teachingWhy my mom and me has to be punished?
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:06:00May I ask, are you a student?or do you have a job?Nobody is punished. Things may just happen.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:06:00That’s a personal question that I don’t want to answer It
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:10:00sure, it is up to you.I just want to say, if I have a job, I will let go.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:13:00He has to pay for what he does.He says he is a Buddhist but his behavior is not a Buddhist should do. someone who is hypocritical like is disgusting
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:22:00So are you come here to ask if you should let go, or wwhat you really want to ask is how to punish him?If what you really want to ask is how to punish him
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:26:00I want people define the real meaning of let go for me
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:26:00Probably you may consult to a lawyer.Long story short, it is equalivent to 出离心
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:27:00People always twist the meaning o let goA real Buddhist would repent.
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:29:00Of course. The meaning of most things are twist allthe time. That is why 达摩 say we should not followwords.A real Buddhist may not have a marriage.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:32:00Buddhism should help people follow moral rules not helppeople become a hyporirite
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:36:00Fine, if he is not. Then what, will you feel better?
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:37:00If married people are not qualified to discuss Buddhism, I believe many people in this forum has no right to post article here.Why people who study buddiism always tell people to letgo . But not scold the one who did the wrong thing?
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:43:00As I say, if what you really want is to punish orscold the people who do the wrong thing, you may
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:44:00Why people who study Buddhism always tell people to forgive ? How cold blooded
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:44:00consult to a lawyer.Buddhism is not something help you do the judgemtnt.It is helping you to have the real peace.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:46:00Is cold bloodedness peace?Why Buddhist always have a condescending attitude to people?
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-14 23:51:00no, it is the real peace.Most of the Buddhist don't really understand it intheir whole lifetime.As for the attitude you mention, at some moment, youwill understand it is really not a bit deal.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-14 23:58:00I think Buddhism in Taiwan is becoming twisted and coldblooded.
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:00:00so what? If they are or they are not? will you feelany better?
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:01:00And help people to rationalize their wrong behaviorBuddhism should make people better not worseI want to know what the real Buddhism is
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:03:00Buddhism can help people really want to be one.It is not a law or something.Buddhism can help people who really want to be one.I miss a wordAs talk about Buddhism, it is real something regularit is to help you to feel better, or learn the realpeace.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:06:00Buddhism is not a law , so people should not use it totell people to forgive
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:06:00Not the people do things right or not, but you, Bwhmj,feel better.Sure. Then what? will you feel better by that?
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:08:00I don’t care for my mood . I care why Buddhism is twisted.
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:09:00Then it is out of the landscape of Buddhism. :D
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:09:00And people become hypocrite
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:10:00The real Buddhism has nothing to be twisted.Because what he really teach you is really nothing.Again, all I that I care is , will you feel better?
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:12:00Then this forum can be closed.
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:12:00Sure, it is up to you.
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:13:00I would feel better if there’s less hypocrite
作者:
noonee (我和烤肉间只差一撮孜然)
2018-06-15 00:15:00Well, if that will really help you.... good luck!
楼主:
bwhmj (....)
2018-06-15 00:16:00Thank you
your mother should 放下,that's right,but the word "放下" shouldn't be said by your father.your father should had said "sorry".you should find a lawyer instead of asking in here.
作者:
yule1224 (支持自经区服贸货贸)
2018-06-15 12:34:00你老爹在婚姻没结束前,婚姻不忠就已经造业障,至于你妈该不该放下,是你妈个人的事