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36个问题加上四分钟四目相接就能让两陌生人爱上彼此?
Are you kidding me(你是玩笑我吗)?
觉得很有趣就多研究了一下, 也把36个问题罗列出来
这些问题除了引出个人故事之外, 不知不觉会分享价值观及梦想
等于是有系统地了解彼此的过去/现在/未来
再加上原先设定是两个陌生人的对谈,
仗着“反正大不了老死不相见”的想法大大增加诚实度
没想到这样的诚实度反而是增加好感的一大利器
一般聊天要累积这样深广度的理解需要很长很长的时间 (且往往碍于情面不一定诚实)
36个问题问完之后, 两人四只眼睛定定地凝视彼此, 四分钟!
想温水煮青蛙或破冰更进一步的大家可以试试看喔!
有另一伴的人跟伴侣练习也可以增进双方了解及感情~
Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want
as a dinner guest?
如果全世界的人都可以邀请, 你会邀请谁来当晚餐嘉宾?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
想要成名吗? 怎么样成名?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you
are going to say? Why?
在打电话之前你会不会先在脑中预演一次? 为什么?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
心目中”完美的一天”是长什么样子?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
最后一次自言自语地唱歌是什么时候? 又是什么时候对别人唱歌?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the
mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which
would you want?
如果预知自己能活到九十岁, 你会选择后60年能保持30岁时的身体还是心理思想?为什么?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
关于自己的最终之日有没有一种神秘的预感?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
列举三样你及你的伴侣/同伴的共通之处
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
在你的生命里, 什么让你最觉得感恩?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised,
what would it be?
如果有能力改变成长过程中的被养育经验, 你想改造成如何?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much
detail as possible.
在四分钟内告诉你的伴侣/同伴你的人生故事, 越仔细越好
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or
ability, what would it be?
如果明天一觉醒来能够多一种人格特质或能力, 你希望获得什么?
Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life,
the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
如果有个水晶球无所不知, 无所不答, 你最想问的什么?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time?
Why haven’t you done it?
最最最最最梦想要做的事情是什么? 为什么现阶段还没实现?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
人生中最大的成就是什么?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
最重视友谊的哪种特质?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
最珍视的回忆是?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
最不堪回首的回忆是?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly,
would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
如果预知再一年你将会突然死亡, 你是否会改变现在的生活方式? 为什么?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
友谊对你的意义是什么?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
爱及情感在你的生活中扮演什么角色?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic
of your partner. Share a total of five items.
与你的伴侣/同伴分享你认为他具有的五个正面特质
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood
was happier than most other people’s?
描述你的家庭关系亲密程度? 你是否觉得自己的童年比一般人还开心?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
你与你母亲的关系如何?
Set III
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are
both in this room feeling ... “
用“我们”开头说三句陈述句，例如“我们在这房间里觉得…”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I
could share ... “
完成这个句子: 我希望能够有一个人让我跟他分享……
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner,
please share what would be important for him or her to know.
如果你能跟你的伴侣/同伴成为知心好友, 你先提点他哪些重要事情?
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time,
saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
告诉你的伴侣/同伴你欣赏他什么, 请非常非常非常诚实
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
与你的伴侣/同伴分享人生中最糗的一个时刻
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
最后一次在他人面前哭是什么时候? 自己一人呢?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
告诉你的伴侣/同伴你已经喜欢他哪些特质
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
有什么对你来说是非常重要严肃认真的, 不能拿来开玩笑?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate
with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why
haven’t you told them yet?
如果今晚就要死了, 而且完全没机会在那之前有任何人际沟通, 你会最遗憾哪句话还没说出口? 为什么还没说?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving
your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save
any one item. What would it be? Why?
家里失火了, 在抢救完人宠之后, 还能回头抢救最后一样东西, 你会选择拿什么? 为什么?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most
disturbing? Why?
在所有家人里面, 哪一位家人的死去对你造成的打击会最强烈?为什么?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or
she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you
seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
分享一个私人难题, 并问你的伴侣/同伴他会如何处理,
并请他分享他认为你对此难题的想法及感觉

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