A child usually learns to tie their shoes around the time they go to
school. And once they learn, it is something they will not forget. However,
if the child's mother comes to the rescue each time the child's shoe
becomes untied, the child will never learn. The same can be said for what
we learn on an emotional level. You may be trying to save someone from an
emotional lesson - but the sooner they experience it without your
intervention, the sooner they will be able to manage it without help. And
once they get there, they'll be stronger for it.
小孩子通常在上学前学会绑鞋带，一旦他学会了就不容易忘。然而，如果孩子的妈每
一次都在小孩的鞋带没绑好的时候出手相助，那么这个孩子就永远学不会。同理可证，
我们在情绪学习的时候也是如此。你也许正试着拯救某个人从情绪的课题之中解脱——
可是当他越快经历而不受到你的干预，他就能越快学会在没有他人帮助的情况下如何
处理。一旦他学会了，他就会为此变得更勇敢。