When a friend or a family member tells us about a problem they are
experiencing, we are looking at it from the outside, and usually, it won't
seem as bad to us as it does to them. That's because even though we can be
very empathic, we don't have the same level of involvement, fears and
worries they have, and we can look at it more realistically. Try to see a
problem you are going through now in the same way. Pretend someone else is
telling you about this problem. See, it really isn't all that bad. You
will figure out a way to rise above it.
当朋友或家人跟你说他们正在经历的困难的时候，我们是旁观者，那个难题通常对我
们来说好像不是当事人认为得那么糟，这是因为虽然我们可以非常有同理心，但是我
们不像当事人那么投入、恐惧和担忧。试着用同样的方式看待问题，好像你正在经历
那个问题一样，假装现在是其他人在跟你讨论那个问题。看吧，事情真的不是那么糟，
你会想出办法克服的。