This is the situation: my bf and I were laying in bed and I started in my opinion play fighting with him. This could include biting, smacking the back of his neck or butt, pinching, etc (but never smacking his face). He’s told me many times that he’s okay with play fighting but when he says to stop I need to stop. Eventually he got mad bc I hadn’t stopped when he asked. While he was still mad, I laid back down and turned over to him but as I turned my hand smacked right at his private part. This
caused him to push against my neck and I got really startled. He had never put his hands on me before. This lasted for about 3 seconds before he got up and crotched into a fetal position because of the pain to his private. I was just laying there processing what happened. It wasn’t as if he was getting up and propped his left hand against me to get up. He was ontop of me with his right hand on my neck/ collar bone. Later I asked him if he knew what he did was wrong and he said yes but his intention
wasn’t to choke me. He said he was just trying to press against me to get me off of him. But in my head and from what 8 remember I wasn’t on him I was next to him. Then he said that this wouldn’t have happened if I had stopped when he asked. I said I understand that but he shouldn’t ever try to choke me. In which he responded that he knows what he did was wrong but why don’t I see it as a big problem when I hit him. I told him that every time I hit him, I am play fighting, never have I hit him
because I was mad or angry. I explained to him that in this scenario he was angry or mad or annoyed and he put his hands on me. He then said he didn’t mean it in any harm. At this point idk what to think. I know I shouldn’t hit him anymore even if it’s playfully but should I be worried and is this a red flag?