探讨“亚洲女性仇视亚洲男性”的议题
此文出于专门关注亚洲女生权利的杂志 april magazine 上
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原文
I was in the eighth grade when I first encountered a self-hating Asian. The
person in question was a 1.5th generation Korean girl and one of the few
other Asian students in my nearly all-white Canadian high school. Being
(heterosexual) teenaged girls, we naturally spent a lot of our time together
discussing cute boys. I can still remember her reaction when I mentioned that
my long-time crush was the boy who sat in front of me during my after-school
Chinese classes.
“Oh, so he’s an Asian guy,” she said dismissively. Seeing the confused
look on my face, she quickly added, “It’s just that they’re always so
nerdy, you know? And most of them are kind of ugly, too.”
My friend wasn’t alone in holding these views. Since then, I’ve listened to
countless Asian women sing their excuses for why they refused to date within
their own race. Between the never-ending chorus of “It’d be like dating my
own brother” or “I just happen to have more in common with white guys,” I
began to understand that these excuses were simply an expression of their
internalized racism. Rather than confront these feelings, they chose to craft
a narrative where Asian men were too [fill in the blank with an undesirable
characteristic of your choice], thus absolving them of personal
responsibility for their dating decisions.
Of course, on closer inspection, it was clear that their rationalizations
were riddled with inconsistencies. For one thing, in order for their
collective testimonies to be true, Asian men would have to occupy a very
paradoxical position on the spectrum of male undesirability—vilified as
patriarchal overlords by one woman and then mocked for being geeky losers by
the next.
Moreover, while these women vehemently resisted being labeled themselves,
they couldn’t recognize their own hypocrisy in stereotyping other groups.
Take, for example, this article written by an international student from Hong
Kong attending university in the UK. She discusses the ethnic stereotypes she
has encountered and ultimately reaffirms that people are just “individuals
with variety after all.” She then ends her piece by remarking that Chinese
men are, in fact, “smaller” than white men.
This article ties into a larger trend of Asian women publicly vocalizing
disdain for their Asian male counterparts. Gina Choe and Jenny An both felt
compelled to broadcast their Asian-exclusionary dating preferences on public
platforms. Comedian Esther Ku routinely exploits (false) stereotypes of Asian
men during her shows. A couple months ago, she even tweeted a video thanking
United Airlines for assaulting Dr. David Dao. I want to be clear: there’s
nothing wrong with choosing to be in an interracial relationship. There’s
everything wrong with having to insult the men of your own race when you do.
Our current racial climate is inherently hostile and discourages anything
that fosters a strong sense of self-esteem among all POC living in the West.
Whiteness is often the unspoken prerequisite to success and respect, which
incentivizes minorities to seek further inclusion into white society. For
some Asian women, this involves disassociating themselves entirely from Asian
men. These women are certainly not representative of the average Asian woman
from any country. However, we also can’t deny that this vocal minority has
swallowed up a disproportionate amount of room in what little space is
granted for our voices. And there’s been minimal effort on our part to
censure them.
Taken in the collective, the actions of these individuals illustrate the
broader failure of our community to facilitate open discussion on issues like
internalized racism. As a diverse and immigrant-heavy population, the
development of our racial consciousness remains in its fledgling state. The
foundation of our activism, therefore, depends on our ability to solidify a
positive Asian identity—and we can start by calling out the self-haters
among us.
(Written by Yuenting J. Yuenting is a third generation Chinese-Canadian
currently attending university.)
粗略的意思是部分亚洲女性找了许多借口来污蔑贬低亚洲男性
将沙文主义、鲁蛇、甚至是种族歧视的字眼都莫须有的套在亚洲男人身上
将亚洲男性贬低的一无是处好让她们喜欢白人的行为合理化