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【全球疯传】美首席大法官毕典致辞：祝你不幸又遭背叛
https://youtu.be/Gzu9S5FL-Ug （致辞影片）
美国首席大法官罗伯兹（John Roberts）上月受邀前往儿子就读的中学发表毕业致词，结
果引发媒体及网络疯传。因为他的致词不但不是祝福孩子有前途、一帆风顺，反而是希望
台下所有学生遭遇“不幸”、“挫败”甚至是“被背叛”。但当仔细读完他的毕业致词后
，许多人深受感动，因为里面充满为人父母的挣扎与期待。
《华盛顿邮报》、《时代周刊》、《华尔街日报》等各大美国媒体近日陆续报导这段感动
全美的毕业致词。《华邮》记者说，这段上月3日在知名男校Cardigan Mountain School
的致词并未事先发布新闻稿，而是校方录制完演说后上传至YouTube，结果在一个月后开
始发酵，陆续有多名读者向《华邮》提供影片连结，还说即便自己和这位大法官的政治立
场看法不同，却仍大受感动。因为罗伯兹不是为孩子勾勒出美好的未来世界，而是希望他
们能在现实社会里跌跤后再勇敢爬起。
以下为致词节录中译文：
“通常毕业致词者会祝你们好运还会祝你们心想事成，但我不会这么做。我会告诉你们原
因。在接下来数年的三不五时间，我希望你们被不公平对待，如此你们才知道公平正义的
重要。我希望你们遭遇背叛，如此才知道忠诚的重要性。恨抱歉要这么说，但我希望你们
有时感到孤单，这样才不会把朋友当作理所当然。
我希望你们三不五时遭遇不幸，如此才能意识到机率和运气在人生中扮演的角色，了解成
功不是完全你所应得的，而他人的失败也不是他们所应得的结果。当你们失败时，人生三
不五时一定会有失败，我希望你的对手会对你的失败幸灾乐祸，让你们理解运动家精神的
重要性。我希望你们遭忽视，如此才会知道聆听他人的重要性，我还希望你们遭遇足够的
痛苦来学习同理心。不管是否来自我的希望，这些事终究会发生。至于你们是否能从中获
利，则取决于你们从不幸中获得讯息的能力。
毕业致词者通常会给学生一些建议。他们会给一些广泛的建议，也会给一些有用的小撇步
。最常给的建议就是：做自己。给所有人一样的建议实在有点怪，但你们确实应该做自己
。只是你们得了解做自己的意义何在。除非你很完美，否则做自己不代表不能接受改变。
在某些状况来说，你不应该做自己，而是应该变成更好的人。大家说‘做自己’是因为他
们希望你们能阻挡外界要求你们做的事，但除非你们了解自己是谁，或思考过自己是谁，
否则无法‘做自己’。”
以下为英文原文：
“Now the commencement speakers will typically also wish you good luck and
extend good wishes to you. I will not do that, and I’ll tell you why. From
time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so
that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer
betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say,
but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take
friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that
you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your
success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not
completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time,
I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is
a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll
be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you
will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things
or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not
will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.
Now commencement speakers are also expected to give some advice. They give
grand advice, and they give some useful tips. The most common grand advice
they give is for you to be yourself. It is an odd piece of advice to give
people dressed identically, but you should — you should be yourself. But you
should understand what that means. Unless you are perfect, it does not mean
don’t make any changes. In a certain sense, you should not be yourself. You
should try to become something better. People say ‘be yourself’ because
they want you to resist the impulse to conform to what others want you to be.
But you can’t be yourself if you don't learn who are, and you can’t learn
who you are unless you think about it. ”
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