恰当说话把握幸福

楼主: HoEva (Unicorn)   2023-01-05 23:58:05
蔡礼旭老师在《细讲弟子规》说孔夫子注重言谈,《弟子规》中有许多有关于言语、对话
、互动的态度与技巧的规范,多加练习后就能收适当沟通之效。因为人际沟通首在用言语
表达己意或征询对方/他人意见,一旦说出口就覆水难收,说话之前不得不慎思。论语提
到:“可与言而不与之言,失人;不可与言而与之言,失言”,都是提醒对什么人说什么
话,不失言也不失人,可以恰到好处地达到沟通的目的。
大家都知道“祸从口出”,也知道“沉默是金”,闭嘴是上策,却很难管得住自己的嘴巴
,冲口而出就立刻后悔。这是以媛过去常犯的毛病,曾经有长官提醒在讲任何话之前先停
三秒钟,可以省去许多事后懊悔或道歉的麻烦。来到“超级生命密码系统”学习后才发觉
闭嘴需要能量,也要能练就“秒秒GPS”的觉察力,才能在细修下觉知到起心动念的变化
,在尚未开口前就止住说话的念头,或改变说话的口气,难怪大家都感叹说话这门艺术穷
一生之力都在考验人的修养和智慧。
最值得警惕的是太阳盛德导师曾在一个访谈音档中提到:说话是有能量的,一直说一些负
面的话,以为是俏皮话说说无妨,殊不知那一再重复说的负面言语已经不知不觉地烙印在
灵魂内存,现世或来生在因缘成熟下产生了负作用,陷入不幸的命运。
大家经常被告诫丧志泄气、负气、抱怨、损人、自夸、不实、机密、隐私等八种话不能说
,是从说话人的角度来检视反省如何恰当释放自己所思所想的讯息。另一方面如果没有对
象,就成了自说自话。因此说话的艺术也是听话的艺术,是一种关心对方的艺术,只有在
“爱与感恩”的氛围中,沟通才会有效,这是一辈子都在学习的课题。
请你听我说
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生命的轮廓 需要爱 来创作
TO SKETCH LIFE REQUIRES LOVE AS CREATIVITY
走过执著 不再谈论对错
TRANSCEND FROM ATTACHMENT, NO LONGER DWELL ON WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG
最好的经过 请珍惜 来把握
PLEASE CHERISH AND GRASP HOLD OF THE GREATEST LIFE LESSONS
相信你能感受 有一份爱 暖心窝
I BELIEVE YOU CAN FEEL MY LOVE WARMING YOUR HEART
此刻感触特别多
LOTS OF FEELINGS AT THIS MOMENT
无法继续选择沉默
CANNOT KEEP SILENT ANY LONGER
还记否曾懵懂的你 总不知所措
STILL REMEMBER HOW YOU WERE ONCE SO LOST AND LACKED DIRECTION
想要解脱 又飞蛾扑火
HAVE DESIRE TO BE FREE BUT KEEP GOING IN A CIRCLE LIKE MOTHS TO A FLAME
红尘蹉跎 惹了祸
DISTRACTIONS IN LIFE ARE TRAPS
关关难过 仿佛著了魔
VICIOUS CYCLE KEEPS REPEATING AS IF WE HAVE BEEN POSSESSED
邀你突破来实现如果 请你听我说
ENCOURAGE YOU TO BREAK THE CYCLE AND EXPLORE THE POSSIBILITIES,
PLEASE LISTEN TO MY WORDS
生命的线索 需要心 来掌握
FINDING THE ANSWERS TO LIFE REQUIRES A METICULOUS MIND
走过执著 不再谈论对错
TRANSCEND FROM ATTACHMENT, NO LONGER DWELL ON WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG
所有的经过 请珍惜 来把握
PLEASE CHERISH AND GRASP HOLD OF ALL LIFE LESSONS
相信你能感受 有一份爱 暖心窝
I BELIEVE YOU CAN FEEL MY LOVE WARMING YOUR HEART
此刻感触特别多
LOTS OF FEELINGS AT THIS MOMENT
真心感受何必多说
IF YOU CAN FEEL MY HEART, LESS IS MORE
还记否曾懵懂的你 总不知所措
STILL REMEMBER HOW YOU WERE ONCE SO LOST AND LACKED DIRECTION
想要解脱 又飞蛾扑火
HAVE DESIRE TO BE FREE BUT KEEP GOING IN A CIRCLE LIKE MOTHS TO A FLAME
红尘蹉跎 惹了祸
DISTRACTIONS IN LIFE ARE TRAPS
关关难过 仿佛著了魔
VICIOUS CYCLE KEEPS REPEATING AS IF WE HAVE BEEN POSSESSED
邀你突破来实现如果 请你听我说
ENCOURAGE YOU TO BREAK THE CYCLE AND EXPLORE THE POSSIBILITIES,
PLEASE LISTEN TO MY WORDS
天地真爱的承诺 丰富了生活
PROMISE OF LOVE FROM THE UNIVERSE FULFILS OUR LIFE
努力耕耘 能量的花朵
CULTIVATE DILIGENTLY TO RECEIVE BLOSSOMING FLOWERS WITH ENERGY
关关好过轻松过
ALL LIFE OCCURRENCES CAN BE EASY PEASY
不再闪躲 将爱来散播
RESIST NO MORE, SPREAD YOUR LOVE
邀你突破来实现如果 请你听我说
ENCOURAGE YOU TO BREAK THE CYCLE AND EXPLORE THE POSSIBILITIES,
PLEASE LISTEN TO MY WORDS
请你听我说
PLEASE LISTEN TO MY WORDS
在爱中共振,在感恩中连结。
打造精采生命,共创美好未来。
作者: tzboy (tzboy)   2023-01-06 16:01:00
作者: miinux (苓儿)   2023-01-07 21:36:00

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