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kl25082 (è²)
2018-10-09 23:00:31When we don't like someone, especially when it's because they have done
harm to us either intentionally or unintentionally, we tend to look down
on their achievements. We don't want the people we don't like to succeed.
It's partly anger, partly vengeful thinking, and also partly self-
protective. If we don't expect anything good from someone we dislike, then
it validates our choice to dislike them. But when you turn that anger,
vengeance, and self-protective action against yourself, it is especially
harmful. You need to forgive yourself for something, Moonchild. If you do,
things will improve.
当我们不喜欢某个人的时候，尤其是他们对我们做出伤害我们的事，不管他们是有意
或无心的，我们都很容易贬低他们的成就，我们不希望那种人成功，这是愤怒的一种
表现，也是一种报复思想，同时也是自我保护的一种机制。如果我们不要指望从不喜
欢的人身上得到任何好处，那你就有权不喜欢他们。可是当你点燃了怒火、报复心与
自我保护，这样反而对自己不好，甚至是百害而无一益。你必须原谅自己所做过的某
件事，月之子，如此一来，一切才会好转。